"Wonder", this American inspirational family comedy that cannot be more typical, is like a homemade sandwich breakfast. Although it is not irreplaceable or indispensable, it can bring you a rich and brilliant sense of satisfaction. You feel that the world is beautiful and life is full of hope.
Americans have a very important family concept, so family harmony will become one of the reference standards in the presidential election. Since there is no research on psychology and American sociology, and only a small number of film and television works to understand American families, the point of view is inevitably one-sided: those Americans who successfully run their families are geniuses in dealing with intimate relationships-such as The three protagonists in "Wonder".
The first is the long-lost mother Isabel played by Julia Roberts. She is the backbone of this "matriarchal" family. At the beginning of the film, she alone decides to let her son who has been receiving family education in special appearance to go to school. Even though her husband objected, the son was also afraid. , She still concealed her fear of making decisions and pushing for implementation-and then the facts proved that her decision was wise. -One of the principle of intimacy: As the leader of a family, you must make decisive decisions that are beneficial to everyone, even if there are many obstacles to implementation.
The son Auggie's journey to school at the beginning was full of thorns and bruised and bruised and went home crying. The conversation between Isabel and his bedroom could be extended to all mothers: first it was clear that leaving the table because of emotions was impolite and irregular, and then he gently asked Auggie to vent. She expressed grief and expressed her heart, and then she firmly argued that her son is not ugly, because she is a mother, so she said the most, and then the gleaming sentence: The heart determines where we go, and the face marks the place we have been. . Her wrinkles are a counter to her son's surgery—this is a proof that wrinkles are love—that is, her love for her son is consistent or even increasing, and finally ended the comfort before bed with a witty throwing pot. Auggie, who was badly injured during the day, fell asleep surrounded by maternal love. ——The second principle of intimacy: When a family member is hurt, we must do our best to affirm him and let him know that you and your love have never been far away.
At first I saw the cast of the cast, and I didn't quite understand why I chose Owen Wilson to play his father Nate. After watching the movie, it became clear that the role of this father is a bit like tailor-made for this naturally romantic and sunny actor. Although it seems from the film that Isabel has always been in charge of the family, I still feel that this autocratic system was established after Auggie was born. The wife who is about to get a master's degree completely gave up her studies and career for her son, and devoted all her time and energy to the treatment, care and education of the child. Nate respects his wife and loves his wife, and it happens that his wife has enough decision-making Wisdom is what makes Xian events happy and unwilling to do. Every time he talks to his son in a low voice, he is so cute, especially when he admits that he is afraid of his wife. The audience is moved while laughing. At the same time, he did not give up a trace of his father's responsibilities. He sent his children to school (although not every day), gave his son manly encouragement, and made up for his seat when Isabel forgets to say goodnight to his daughter, and accompanied his son and friends to play "My World ", went to the hospital with his wife to treat the dog, and he was never absent on all important occasions for the children. ——The third principle of intimacy: cherish the sacrifice of your partner, respect her status and choice, and use actions to support and assist. As a man, it is too cool.
Finally, there is some sister Via, who has a temperament similar to Elle Fanning. It is estimated that everyone wants such a big treasure. Since her younger brother was born, she has loved him for no reason. She is accustomed to her younger brother being the family galaxy of the sun. While taking care of herself, she helps her parents share the housework, so she can only pour out her thoughts to her girlfriends. After her best friend alienated herself for no reason, she finally came to the brink of collapse. When she was most sad, she went to the beach near her grandma's house to relieve herself. After returning home and telling Isabel truthfully, the mother finally realized that her long-term neglect had hurt her daughter and arranged a reparative mother-daughter date-however, unexpectedly, the date was ruined by her younger brother's condition. What did she do afterwards? Instead of hiding and crying by herself, and not getting angry with her mother (she didn't know how to fight, but knew that the timing was wrong), she successfully pulled her brother out to beg for sweets-as can be seen from this "case", she Absolutely inherited the mother's talent for negotiation. ——The fourth principle of intimacy: Family members may temporarily ignore themselves, but they should not be self-loving or shut themselves down because of this. They can express their complaints in a timely manner and use actions to support them, and they will get the rewards they deserve.
It is the three family members who are so well versed in intimate relationships that have created a perfect haven for Auggie. He can express his emotions and love unscrupulously, and he can go back on the road every time he is injured, and muster the courage to change that unsuitability time and time again. His environment. Almost every family dialogue in the film is worth learning, and I hope that families who go to the movie can learn from this aspect while being moved.
